How to Respect Yourself and Set Healthy Boundaries: A Guide for Women

A Little Intro

I am the creator of high on you and I am just like you. I am on a journey of finding myself, becoming better and basically becoming the woman of my dreams. I started high on you because I feel there is so much power and magic in women and majority of women live their lives not even recognizing that. I am a very spiritual woman and somehow I've had experiences in my life that has made me realize so many things, but most importantly my self-worth. I am not going to run ads for high on you or ask women to please follow because I know the women who will resonate with me will become a part of this on their own. High on you is basically about women being high on themselves, living a life with zero self-doubts, insecurity or any negative low vibration energy. My vision is to create a community of women that is so strong that it feels like a second home, a home full of love and magic where we all grow together. 

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So, now that you know me, let me enlighten you with my acquired knowledge on this topic.

Why Respecting Yourself Matters

I know we look for being respected by the outer world, the people around us. But I want you to understand that your respect should come from you first. You need to understand that the way you treat yourself, is how others will treat you. And it's not about other people, firstly and most importantly it's about you, how do you view yourself? How do you talk about yourself in a group? Do you make fun of yourself to fit in with people easily? You need to put yourself first because you will set the tone, always.

When you build respect for yourself in your own eyes, you will notice how your confidence goes up and how you don't need anybody, you will not want to do anything that makes you look bad, that makes you feel uncomfortable. Self respect will help you choose better for yourself.

Understanding Self-Respect

Let's understand it in simple terms. Self respect is when you choose what is right for you without thinking of pleasing someone, it is when you learn to love yourself, prioritize yourself, it is when you take a stand for yourself, it is when you value yourself, it is when yo start taking your dignity seriously. Self respect starts from self love.

What Are Boundaries?

Boundaries is nothing but the limit you set for yourself and hence for others. It is when you say no to something because your boundaries don't allow it, and you will not break them to  please anyone. Your boundaries can define you and your character, because it is all about choices. And the choices we make can determine our future. So, if your boundaries are strong enough to say no to something you're not comfortable in, you can always choose the best for yourself.

Why Women Especially Struggle with Boundaries?

Women are always expected to be sacrificial, nurturing and mother like figure. Because women are emotional, we are often expected to understand. We struggle with boundaries because we often have to choose between pleasing someone by doing what they want us to do regardless of how we feel or what we want. We need to drop this habit of putting ourselves in the end, start choosing for yourself, speak up for yourself because expectations never end.

Signs You Might Be Lacking Boundaries

• Feeling drained, resentful, taken advantage of.
• Difficulty saying "No"
• Fear of disappointing others

How to Build Self-Respect

To start building self respect you can start by practicing positive self talk. Tell yourself good things, tell yourself you are worthy, you are enough and you love yourself. You don't have to feel guilty for choosing yourself, because if you will not then who will? Choosing yourself is an act of respecting yourself. Celebrate small wins, no matter who cheers for you or not, you become your greatest cheerleader. Be happy for yourself, be proud of yourself and celebrate you every win.

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

Choosing yourself is great but make sure you don't say no rudely to people. You can have boundaries and still be friendly and kind. Just learn to set healthy boundaries in a way that doesn't make you look bad. Communicating your boundaries clearly will help you a lot because then people will know you better. You also need to stick to them consistently and follow them in your daily life. 

Handling Pushback from Others

When you say no to people, people might show resistance but you need to stay firm. You shouldn't feel guilty or any kind of pressure for choosing yourself. When you feel guilty, remember that you don't owe anyone anything. You are free and you are free to choose yourself, it's like it is your duty to self.

Start practicing all this in real. Choose relationships that feel supportive. You have to start respecting your own time and energy. And if you feel you need help, go for therapy. Don't rush yourself just start slow. Start by loving yourself.

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