How to Release Trauma and Pain by Honoring It First : Letting Go Without Resistance
A Little Intro
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Introduction
The definition of trauma can be different for people, because our lives and situations are different. Sometimes we find someone who can understand it while sometimes it may seem like nobody gets you. I know the feeling besties, for a very long time in my life I didn't even realize that I'm holding trauma in my body, in my behavior and my body language. And this can or could be happening with you too. For this it is important we understand and acknowledge our fears and traumas because only then we can overcome it and free ourselves from the unnecessary burden. Mostly we try to run away from heavy emotions because we think they are too much or we won't be able to handle them. But question yourself, How is it that something that's coming from you, stays in you can be hard for you? If you can carry it around with you, you can surely face it too. Let's understand better where to start.
Understand Your Trauma, Don't Deny It
The core essence of being human is to be able to feel and act based on our decisions, this is what differentiates us from animals, we can feel, understand and act accordingly based on our emotions and thinking. I'm saying this because sometimes we start feeing shame or guilty for our emotions or pain. We shouldn't because to feel is to be human. You are allowed to feel each and every emotion, your body, your heart allows it, then how can you or anybody else say that it is wrong. Acknowledge your pain, dive deeper within your heart, read each layer of it and become your own best friend. When you will acknowledge your pain, feel it and release, you will feel far more powerful and in control than before.
What you can do :
- Journaling
- Inner child work
- talking about it safely
Feel It Fully Then Let It Move
Each time you suppress an emotion and think it's gone, it stays trapped in your body. You keep suppressing until it becomes too heavy to carry, until it starts showing on your face, in your voice. Your body is your temple, worship it, just how you wouldn't store any junk in a temple, don't store any unwanted emotions in your body. Keep it clean, keep your emotions flowing. Every emotion is meant to be felt for a reason. Let yourself feel, let the tears roll out, let your anger, your grief out. When you stop yourself from feeling, it's like smoking for your body, it will keep getting dense, heavy and full of junk(unwanted emotions), and as time will pass it will do more harm only. Feeling is a part of healing.
Rewrite the Narrative
Don't let your brain tell you that you're petty, little victim who wants sympathy from others. The brain can stop you from doing the hard work because this has become your comfort zone. Moving out of your comfort zone can feel too much, but it is the right thing to do. You are the hero of your story, the main character, you don't have to be on pity of other people, you take control of your life and emotions. Victimhood can literally ruin you and your self-confidence because you'll always look for other people's approval and validation and sympathy. If you want to move from victimhood start becoming self- aware. Start understanding yourself, why do you seek sympathy from others? Analyze your behavior and patterns. Everything you need is already within you. Everything around you is what you create.
What you can do:
- Affirmations
- Self-talk
- Therapy
Build Safety Within
Anxiety and all the stored up emotions can make you feel less like yourself, which can further make you feel unsafe even with yourself. You need to feel safe with you, you should know that you have you. Self talk can really help you in building a bond with yourself. You can practice breathing, visualization, touch. Create daily rituals that remind you that you are safe.
Release Through Expression
Your pain and trauma can be turned into power through expression. When you release the pain in any form, you gain power. Art, dance or music are very powerful, it makes you feel, and you express beautifully. You can make something beautiful out of your wound. I am an artist myself, and I can tell you it really really helps, whenever I'm in a bad mood I either create something or I dance it out. I start it in a forced mood but eventually it gets enjoyable. Try it for yourself.
Forgiveness as a Tool, Not a Rule
When we hold a grudge against someone, we lose more. Remember that you and your energy is very precious, do not waste it. Because where ever your energy will flow, you life will look like that only. Forgive yourself for all the bad decisions, forgive yourself for giving out pain to somebody intentionally or unintentionally, forgive others around you, you don't have to go face to face and say sorry, but just do it in your heart, think of that person and say sorry, say that I forgive you. This is so powerful, it will feel like you released something. The more you practice forgiveness, the more happy and free you'll start to be. Choose peace for yourself ad for others.
What Letting Go Actually Looks Like
Release yourself from the ifs ad buts of the past. When you obsess over a situation of past, your energy is stuck there. Understand that you don't have to be stuck in the past, choose the present moment, because this is all you have right now and this is where you can do whatever you want to. Learn to live with what happened and not as what happened and why it happened. Make peace with your life.
Lastly, all I can say is that it might look like a lot of work right now. But once you start practicing and seeing the difference in yourself and your life, you will thank yourself for choosing better. Remember that you are the main character of your life and you are here for all the good things, so shift your focus and start getting better.
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