How to Choose the Right Friends as a Woman: A Guide to Building Empowering Relationships

You all must have heard "You become who you stay with" and it is absolutely true. The people around us can impact our thinking and behavior. I am gonna share with you from my experiences. Lets learn how to choose the right people for your growth and well being. But before that :

A Little Intro

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Friendships are a major part of life, it's beautiful, empowering and amazing if you have true good friends, but if not, it can be the worst relation and can scar you for life. A lot of times we fail to either recognize what's wrong or we are just too afraid to walk away or choose ourselves. I am going to give in points what I have learned and realized about choosing the right people. Here you go:

Know Yourself First

The only way you can choose the right people or things for you is when you know what serves you right or your purpose right. It is only you who can decide how you want people to treat you. Sometimes we sit with a group of people because we think we need to have a friend's group, which is not true at all. You only need people around you who have good intentions. This should be the first thing. Start knowing yourself, what type of conversations you wanna have, what type of places you wanna hang out. Because all this will determine the type of people you attract in your life.

You can journal prompts : What do I value? What drains my energy?

Look for Shared Values

Friendship is not just about going for shopping or hanging out. It's an important connection you build with someone who's out of your family. Look for creating genuine connections. Like any other relation, your friendship should have values like honesty, kindness or maybe ambition. When you connect with people with the same values and interests, the bond becomes empowering and will help you both grow faster and connect more. Trust me having a even just one friend who's genuine is the best. I have one and we're both almost just the same and the bond we share is irreplicable. It's like we're sisters, we can't bear if someone insults or talks badly for the other. So, look for quality over quantity.

Pay Attention to How You Feel

How do you feel when you're with your group? If you feel supported, respected and loved, you're probably with the right people. But if you feel judged, exhausted or overshadowed, walk away from those people because they're only going to drain your energy and steal your light. And overtime you'll start feeling underconfident and not good enough. You have to take a stand for yourself because you deserve to be respected and valued in a group or anywhere you go. If those people only sit and mock you, bully you and call it a joke, leave it immediately. Choose better for yourself.

Quality Over Quantity

We often think it's better we have a group of friends because it's fun or because that is how it should be or it looks cool. Maybe that's valid for the time you complete your schooling. But growing up, the less and meaningful connections you have the better. Because when you have a large group, first of all it's not going to be like you have a deep connection with each of the person in your group, second, most of the times you will have to go with the plans they make otherwise you're the boring one. Plus your energy gets drained. It's better to have two or three, or even one friend who's absolutely there for you, respects you, values you and your time, your efforts. This will actually keep you focused in your life and make you feel great.

Set Boundaries Early

Even if you have a group, let them know your boundaries. Let them know what it is you'd like doing and what is something you absolutely hate doing. Let them know that you respect your time, energy and values and that they also need to. This way you can go about doing things according to you and in a way that doesn't disturb your life.

Trust Your Intuition

You are woman who's blessed with this extraordinary gift of intuition. But what do we do, we ignore it, we doubt it until it gets obvious in front of us that we were right all along. Trust yourself because when it feels that something is not right, it usually is not. Let your gut feeling guide you. If you feel the energy of a person is not right, believe it and do what you feel is right for you.

Be the Friend You Want to Attract

When you embody the traits you want to see in your friend, you start attracting those in your life naturally. Because that is how energy works. Shift your reality to change your reality. If you want to have people around you who are kind, who value others, are empathetic, are loyal, start becoming that yourself. Start valuing people around you, start being kind and you'll notice how you start finding people similar to you.

There is a lot of power in good bonds and genuine connections. As women, we must always try to surround ourselves with women with good values and become that woman ourselves as well. Sisterhood is beautiful. Uplift the women around you, spread love and kindness. It will make your life beautiful.

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