How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others ( and Start Embracing Your Own Journey)

Comparison is something we all have done at some point or the other. But it takes away your power and your faith from you. I am on a journey of getting better and becoming a divine feminine. And I will share with you, all that I'm learning so that we can grow together, because there is nothing better than seeing women thrive and realize their true divine energy. I'm going too be authentic because high on you means a lot to me, it's like I'm just writing a letter or a message to my besties. So, as I was saying, the worst thing you can do to yourself is to compare yourself to others. Let's understand more deeply:

Understanding Comparison & Why We Do It?

Comparison is when you are on your social media, you open someone's story and see them enjoying and your mind brings up all kinds of thoughts and doubts of how you're not doing it and it is bad. We compare when we are not satisfied with something in our lives. We feel we're lagging behind and everyone else is going ahead in life. So there's one thing that we can understand that comparison basically arises because we don't feel fulfilled in our life regarding something, now it can be looks, something materialistic or just about travelling. 

Is It Even Relevant?

Let me ask you, the person you're comparing yourself with, do you both share the same life path? Is everything that has happened with you in your entire life, has happened with that person as well? Obviously not, then how is the comparison even relevant? The cruelest thing you can do to yourself is comparing yourself to others. You sit in your room looking at someone you don't even know or maybe you do, and you just start feeling bad because they're achieving something you're not. I feel like it is just how we deal with the consciousness that reminds us of our potential, you will only feel bad looking at something that you wish to do. You don't feel bad when you look at a celebrity receiving an award, unless you're also trying to get one. Then either you'll be inspired or you'll start comparing and feeling bad. But it is just that when we're unable to push away our laziness and excuses to not do something we want to and we're reminded of it, our brains makes us feel like a victim as if, the person who's achieved something owed anything to you. Victimization will always make you comfortable, because our brains don't like to do hard work, you have to push yourself, do it on a regular basis until your mind gets habitual to it. When you compare yourself and feel bad, instead of sympathizing with yourself, decide to take action for what you want, make a proper plan and tell yourself I can do it. 

Ways To Turn Doubt Into Power

Staying positive all the time is tough I know. And you can't actually stay positive all the time neither you should. The reason is, it important to sit with your doubts to understand yourself.

When you address all your emotions and try to understand the core of it, it will go away. 

1. Face Your Emotions and Doubts

Like I said, sit alone with your thoughts, and you can even write down all that you're feeling. It will help because when you write something down, your brain thinks it's solved or has been addressed. When you will listen to yourself, your doubts will start to fade away.

2. Fill Yourself With Love

Do you ever compare someone you love with someone else? No right, because you know it will hurt them, you may find a subtle way of bringing that up and telling them in a way that won't hurt them. So why torture yourself? Love yourself so much that you trust yourself enough to know that everything I desire of will come to me. Say to yourself I love you, treat yourself with care, do everything that makes you happy without feeling guilty of choosing yourself. When you fill yourself with love, you won't bother to compare yourself and even if your mind brings up thoughts of self-doubt, you'll be able to push them away.

3. Work Towards Your Goals

Start taking action, start working towards all the things you promise to yourself. That builds trust. Do everything you want to and with focus. When you know you're progressing everyday, your self doubts won't be strong enough to make you compare yourself to anybody.

4. Know Your Worth

Don't ever joke about your doubts or insecurities. It is absolutely fine to feel bad at times. But it does not define you or your work. What defines you is your values, your efforts, your mindset and your heart. All the goals or materialistic things do not define your worth. It is only you who can decide what your worth it, nobody else. Don't allow it.

5. Don't Listen to the Society

Society has all types of rules and regulations for women, how they should talk, eat, walk, live and basically everything. IGNORE THAT. Who are these people anyway and what do they even know about you or your journey? Give yourself so much importance in your life that all these things people tell you about you becomes noise (it is noise only). They don't know your vision or struggles. Speaking ill for someone else is so easy, but it takes guts to actually choose yourself and walk your life path. So, just focus on yourself, build yourself and be unstoppable.

Love yourself. Like truly, genuinely love yourself. Build your foundation so strong that nobody can shake it.

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