How to Be a Confident Woman in Any Room You Walk Into

What is Confidence?

Confidence is that strong belief within you that tells you that you are enough. It is when you know your worth and you do not doubt it. It is not about comparing yourself with other people, but it is about knowing what you're capable of doing. It comes from within, from our own experiences and beliefs.

How is Confidence Built?

Since confidence is something that is deeply rooted in how you think, what you've been through and what your belief system is, it can be built from you and your actions.

1. Inner Trust

You can literally create this energy within you, called confidence. If you actually see, everything around you is just energy, including your thoughts and emotions. So, if you look at confidence as a form energy, you might be able to understand it in a better way. When you tell yourself something like, "Oh no, I could never do this" or "I'm too fat/ugly/unworthy" you not only insult yourself but you also damage your self belief. That is how your inner trust starts getting weak. And with all this the only energy you invite, is of negativity and self doubt. Instead say things like "I know I can do anything I want because I am adaptable, I learn things quickly" or " I am progressing everyday, and I only get better". Practice affirmations again and again and see how you start trusting yourself more. When your inner trust strengthens, confidence will come on it's own.

2. Confidence vs. Arrogance

There's a difference between being confident and being arrogant. When an arrogant woman walks into any place, she will look for validation, she will be loud and seeking someone to put her insecurities on and bring someone down so she can feed her ego. She will feel the need to tell everyone, show everyone what she owns, what she has and what she can do. But on the other hand, a confident woman is calm in her energy, She's grounded and gentle. She doesn't have to prove anything to anyone, she knows one simple thing, that whether people look at her or not, whether they appreciate her or not, it will change nothing for her. Her self beliefs and trust are so strong she doesn't need validation from anyone.

3. Confidence Comes from Action

Now I know I said Confidence is an energy, yes it's true. But how do you invite that energy? You can't sit in a room all day and read affirmations and expect magic to happen. You have to align yourself to what you say, this is what builds trust. When you do what you say, when you keep your promises you make to yourself, your inner trust builds stronger. When you step out of your comfort zone and say yes to the things that scare you, confidence starts to build. and then it is so strong it will stay with you forever.

Invest in Yourself

Just mastering the affirmations or self belief won't help, all this is the inner work, the foundation of confidence. But, we all know women, when we look at ourselves and feel beautiful, when we buy new clothes or do something for ourselves, we feel so good and that energy reflects outwards. Confidence won't just appear, it builds from your consistent work that you put into becoming the best version of yourself. Improving every aspect of yourself that gives you self doubt or insecurities, being prepared, polished, proud and assured of yourself will naturally make you carry yourself confidently.

1. Sharpen Your Skills

Speaking with an assured and strong voice actually makes people listen to you. A lot of people feel shy or not confident enough to voice their opinions in a group, if that is the case with you, it's absolutely fine. But it won't be fine if you stay like that for the rest of your life, girl. You have the power, the wisdom and that magic within you to turn heads not just with your presence but also with your voice. Start working on your communication skills, start working on anything that you're insecure about. This will start boosting your confidence. Start gaining knowledge, because you just don't wanna be only pretty sitting in a group, to voice your opinion you must also have enough knowledge to have one. Because when you know what you're talking about and what everyone else is talking about, you speak with certainty naturally.

2. Dress Up

The way you dress speaks a lot about you, actually it speaks before you speak. What I mean is that, intentionally or unintentionally, we all create opinions about someone in our heads by how they look, not their looks, but how they're dressed. Style is a form of self expression, we choose what we feel is pretty. Make it a habit of treating yourself like a queen, dress up pretty, carry this energy with yourself anywhere you go. When you dress up pretty, well ironed clothes and the ones that fit you well, it leaves a strong impact on people. The energy of the room will shift as you enter, and people will want to listen to you because you already gave the impression that you take yourself seriously, and now so will people.

3. Speak With Confidence

Don't tone yourself down, don't be over humble, and don't say sorry on literally everything. Own your space, be there like you were entitled to be on that chair, be there like you own that place. And speak with certainty and clarity. Keep calmness in your voice but also assurance. The way you speak can either shrink you or help you take up the space you deserve.

My Message for You

It is absolutely fine to feel underconfident at times, but I'm glad you have the desire to change that, to get rid of all your self doubts and insecurities. You are on the right path. Follow the steps given above, practice all of these and see yourself getting better everyday. This is a journey to self love and self development. Good luck to you, I know you are magic, it's just a matter of time until you are everybody around you realizes that too.

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